I believe in recycling.

Recycling bottles, plastic, cans, newspapers, electronics.

But what about old boyfriends?

What happens when, out of the blue, you get a call or an email from someone you used to date and he’s interested in seeing you again?

Personally, I think that’s when recycling can be bad for our planet!

You broke up for a reason. Too young, too old, not good in bed, not good out of bed, not good to you. You went to college, he went out with someone else. Marriages, divorces, kids, pets… baggage!!

Cynical? Maybe so. But look at some of these definitions for “recycle” (from MSN Encarta®Dictionary)…

Re·cy·cle (verb)
1. to process used or waste material so that it can be used again; 2. to save or collect used or waste material for reprocessing into something useful; 3. to adapt or convert something to a new use; 4. to use something again for the same purpose; 5. to use something abstract again in the same form, often at the expense of freshness or originality; 6. to repeat a process, or pass something through a process again.

The things that you liked about him may still be appealing. On the flip side, the things that bothered you about him will probably still bother you. My suggestion: weigh both sides and try to be objective. Although you may think you know what you’re getting into, you have to ask yourself, do I really remember what I’m getting into?

A new, budding relationship may offer more potential for the future than a withered relationship from the past… no matter how comfortable the old one might seem! Familiarity isn’t always a good thing! Remember the old expression, familiarity breeds contempt? Well, who knows, maybe there's some truth to it!

A fresh face; a clean slate.

By the way, that goes for your sex toys too. Throw out that dusty, old vibrator that’s been sitting in your drawer for the last 5 years and treat yourself to a new one. You’d be amazed at how sex toys have changed.

New and improved… that’s the way to go!

Lauren Meister is President of Blissable.com
and writer of the new column, Sex in the 21st C

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