Okay, I'm a little depressed. I just finished the "Sex In The City" Best Boyfriend Quiz, and I ended up with Aidan.

Now, any normal person would say, "That's great! You're healthy."

But truth be told, I was hoping for Big.

Besides the fact that I have had a thing for Chris Noth ever since "Law And Order," I always saw myself with the Big type. Not that the Aidan character isn't attractive. He is, and he's pretty near perfect.

So what's the problem? Aidan likes romantic walks in the park. He's a dog guy. And he's sensitive (in a good way).

Obviously, I must be a glutton for punishment. I love that Big, bad boy persona.

Could it be...

What I'm apparently attracted to is not what's really good for me? Well, there's a revelation!

If you think I'm going to resolve this dilemma in one column, think again!

After 30+ years of dating, if I haven't figured it out yet, I don't think the answer is coming anytime soon.

What is it about those "Big" bad boys that we love so much?

Write me your "Big" bad boy story. And how you became healthy and started dating the nice, good boy, Aidan types...

Or, not!

Lauren Meister is President of Blissable.com
and writer of the new column, Sex in the 21st C

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